How to distinguish native goals from imposed ones
Sitting in a chair and sipping my morning coffee # letneedni, I thought: so how do we distinguish the scenery of our lives from authentic content? The tripods of knowledge are not always available to us, and sometimes we just wonder blindly: “Are you sure this is mine?”
Let’s start with a question that may be nagging you: “Why am I still trying to please when even my cat doesn’t approve of my choice?” If your pet looks at you reproachfully, it may be time to think about your goals. Sometimes it seems that the whole life is an endless list of “must” and “must”, similar to the shopping list from the store “Everything for everyone”. And I want to listen to my soul at least once, its soft whisper that says: “Yes, I want it!”.
In our dynamic world full of information and expectations, it is important not only to set goals, but also to understand where they come from. Each of us is a unique story, and in this story there is a place for sincere communication. Let’s start with a simple question: how often have you wondered what drives you? What really inspires you in life? But what about true desires and imposed ones?
You’re probably thinking right now: “Come on, I’m not stupid, I can tell the difference!”
But believe me, it’s not as easy as it sounds.
You are not a fool not to understand that “imposed” goals are such traps that are disguised as “public opinion”, “family traditions” and “correct life values”.
Now let’s move on to the important question: how to distinguish “ native “goals from” imposed “ ones? This may not be easy, but I am sure that each of us is able to find the answer within ourselves. Each of us strives for something more, but often does not think about where these aspirations come from. We are all sculptors of our own lives, but should we use other people’s forms when we have the opportunity to create something unique?
As Sergey Mavrodi would say: “If your goals don’t bring you joy, you may just be in the wrong business!” Take the first step toward identifying and achieving your true goals today. Discover a life full of meaning, passion and endless possibilities.
The eternal dilemma:” native “ goals vs. “imposed”ones
Imposed goals may sound like: “This is how it should be”, “This is how it is accepted”, “This is how it should be”, or “Someone thinks that this will be good”. Their sources can be advertising, public opinion, family traditions, school, or friends. These goals often put us beyond the conventional wisdom and can deprive us of real satisfaction.
For example, if you decide to pursue a career in law because it is “the way it should be” in your family, you should consider whether you really want to do this or just try to meet the expectations of others. And now you’re sitting in a law class, daydreaming about painting masterpieces on the walls of your imagination. You end up trapped in the expectations of others, like in a horror movie where the main character can’t get out of a haunted room. What career path really inspires you? Are you happy with your current goals in life?
The Path to Self-realization: Find your True Desires
Imagine what it feels like to wake up every day with a sense of joy and satisfaction that you are moving towards your true goals!
Native goals are like a warm blanket in the winter cold, they are a reflection of our true desires. These are the goals that inspire, beckon and draw us forward. Achieving such goals brings satisfaction and joy, and the process of moving towards them does not require additional motivation. This means that you want to do what you do and strive for the desired results, despite the difficulties. It’s like finding your favorite song on old vinyl — you know it’s yours! They are there, deep down, sitting and whispering: “Please don’t forget about us! We want to go out into the light too!”
But how do you know them? Here are some tips:
- Questions of self-reflection: Ask yourself simple questions: “Why do I want to achieve this?”, “ What do I really want?”, “ Who inspires me on this path?”. If the answers come from your inner desire, this may be a sign of a “native” goal.
- Emotional response: Pay attention to your feelings. If the thought of a goal makes you feel happy and excited, this is a good sign. If the goal causes fear or anxiety because of other people’s expectations, it may be an “imposed” goal.
- Time and Energy: Evaluate how much time and energy you are willing to put into achieving your goal. If you are happy to work on it, this may indicate that the goal is yours. If you feel like you’re only wasting time meeting other people’s expectations, think about motivation.
- Comparison with others: Look at your goals in the context of others. If you are trying to follow someone or adjust to someone’s expectations, this may be a sign that the goal is imposed.
- Try new things: Discovering new interests and opportunities will help you better understand your true desires. Experiment and listen to your feelings. This will help you separate your real goals from the imposed ones.
Studies have shown that people who are guided by “native” goals are more likely to experience feelings of happiness, life satisfaction and achieve great success in their chosen field of activity.
An analysis of Google Trends data shows that interest in the “how to find your true goals” search has been steadily growing over the past few years.
A survey conducted by LinkedIn shows that the majority of people (87%) consider it important to set goals that reflect their own values and aspirations.
A study conducted by Gallup found that people who work in accordance with their values are more likely to be engaged and productive at work.
Remember that the path to self-discovery is not an easy walk, but it justifies all the work. In the end, only “native” goals can lead to happiness and self-realization. Don’t let someone determine the vector of your life — create it yourself! 🌟
Why you should strive for more and what prevents you from setting ambitious goals
The question, you see, is not greed, but common sense.
Aim at the sun, although you probably won’t hit it; but your arrow will fly higher than if your target were the same height as you.
I define it as the flow of reality. It constantly blows in your face in the form of internal doubts, mental delays, unpleasant surprises from the outside, countless delays and unpleasant obstacles. This means that we can always do less than what we have planned. That is why it is necessary to set rather ambitious goals.
The second significant decision is that sometimes the value of high goals is not in themselves, but in the changes that occur with our personality when these goals are achieved. High ambitious goals immediately highlight at least two points — how we do not know how to do it at all, and our natural bewilderment and vulnerability, fear of being a fool. These are two familiar obstacles.
Overcoming our ignorance forces us to learn intensively. And the higher the goals we set, the more we force ourselves to think about ourselves and the subject in an unusual way. It is important. High goals are achieved not because of our strong tension, but because we are able to move in a DIFFERENT WAY.
Imagine that a year later you wake up and realize that you are living the life you have always dreamed of. Every morning is filled with meaning, every goal is achieved with joy, and your environment supports you on this path. You are free from imposed expectations and follow your true desires.
After all, if your cat isn’t happy with your choice, it might be time to rethink your priorities! So don’t lose faith in yourself and don’t let anyone lead you astray. Your” native “ goals are waiting for you at the top of the mountain, and every step you take brings you closer to them. You are not alone! Join a community of like-minded people who strive for self-fulfillment and support each other along the way.
You have the power to change your life! Each of us is unique and capable of more than we can imagine. Don’t be afraid to follow your own path — this is how you can inspire millions of others to do the same! Remember: your life is your choice, and only you can make it truly great!
If you have any inspiration, share it and save it on the way to your dream.
